Save Thyself For Your Marital Partner

Are you serious?

Sex sells. Advertisers have known this from the time of the advent of print media, before print media there were soda fountains and drive-up establishments that had their waitresses and carhops serve customers in roller skates and showing off some their physical assets. The bartender or barhop had to have sex appeal, it’s part of the job. Cigarettes, beer, liquor, shampoo, makeup, cars, and even guns sell better with a little sex appeal, Today we have Hooters, a “family” restaurant.

The problems with these advertisements and “family friendly” establishments, is that they promote promiscuity and degrade “family values.

Human sexuality has biological, emotional/physical and spiritual aspects. The biological aspect of sexuality refers to the reproductive mechanism as well as the basic biological drive, Libido, that exists in all species, which is hormonally controlled. The emotional or physical aspect of sexuality refers to the bond that exists between individuals, and is expressed through profound feelings or physical manifestations of emotions of lovetrust, and caring. There is also a spiritual aspect of sexuality of an individual or as a connection with others. Experience has shown that adolescents are curious about some or all the aspects of their sexuality as well as the nature of sexuality in general, and that many will wish to experience their sexuality.

Traditionally, adolescents were not given any information on sexual matters, with discussion of these issues being considered taboo. Such instruction as was given was traditionally left to a child’s parents, and often this was put off until just before a child’s marriage. Most of the information on sexual matters were obtained informally from friends and the media, and much of this information was of doubtful value. Much of such information was usually known to be deficient, especially during the period following puberty when curiosity of sexual matters was the most acute. This deficiency became increasingly evident by the increasing incidence of teenage pregnancies, especially in Western countries after the 1960s. As part of each country’s efforts to reduce such pregnancies, programs of sex education were instituted, initially over strong opposition from parent and religious groups.

Burt defined sex education as the study of the characteristics of beings; a male and female. Such characteristics make up the person’s sexuality. Sexuality is an important aspect of the life of a human being and almost all the people including children want to know about it. Sex education includes all the educational measures which in any way may of life that have their center on sex. He further said that sex education stands for protection, presentation extension, improvement and development of the family based on accepted ethical ideas. Leepson sees sex education as instruction in various physiological, psychological and sociological aspects of sexual response and reproduction. Kearney also defined sex education as “involving a comprehensive course of action by the school, calculated to bring about the socially desirable attitudes, practices and personal conduct on the part of children and adults, that will best protect the individual as a human and the family as a social institution. Thus, sex education may also be described as “sexuality education”, which means that it encompasses education about all aspects of sexuality, including information about family planningreproductionfertilizationconception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth), plus information about all aspects of one’s sexuality including: body imagesexual orientationsexual pleasurevaluesdecision makingcommunicationdatingrelationshipssexually transmitted infections (STIs) and how to avoid them, and birth control methods. Various aspect of sex education are to right in school depending on the age of the students or what the children are able to comprehend at a particular point in time. Rubin and Kindendall expressed that sex education is not merely a unit in reproduction and teaching how babies are conceived and born. It has a far richer scope and goal of helping the youngster incorporate sex most meaningfully into his present and future life, to provide him with some basic understanding on virtually every aspect of sex by the time he reaches full maturity.

Almost all U.S. students receive some form of sex education at least once between grades 7 and 12; many schools begin addressing some topics in grades 5 or 6. However, what students learn varies widely, because curriculum decisions are so decentralized. Many states have laws governing what is taught in sex education classes or allowing parents to opt out. Some state laws leave curriculum decisions to individual school districts.

For example, a 1999 study by the Guttmacher Institute found that most U.S. sex education courses in grades 7 through 12 cover puberty, HIVSTIsabstinence, implications of teenage pregnancy, and how to resist peer pressure. Other studied topics, such as methods of birth control and infection prevention, sexual orientationsexual abuse, and factual and ethical information about abortion, varied more widely.

Only two forms of sex education are taught in American schools: “abstinence plus” and abstinence-only. Comprehensive or “abstinence plus” sex education covers abstinence as a positive choice, but also teaches about contraception and avoidance of STIs when sexually active. A 2002 study conducted by the Kaiser Family Foundation found that 58% of secondary school principals describe their sex education curriculum as “abstinence plus”.

Abstinence-only sex education tells teenagers that they should be sexually abstinent until marriage and does not provide information about contraception. In the Kaiser study, 34% of high-school principals said their school’s main message was abstinence-only.

The difference between these two approaches, and their impact on teen behavior, remains a controversial subject. In the U.S., teenage birth rates had been dropping since 1991, but a 2007 report showed a 3% increase from 2005 to 2006. From 1991 to 2005, the percentage of teens reporting that they had ever had sex or were currently sexually active showed small declines. However, the U.S. still has the highest teen birth rate and one of the highest rates of STIs among teens in the industrialized world. Public opinion polls conducted over the years have found that the vast majority of Americans favor broader sex education programs over those that teach only abstinence, although abstinence educators recently published poll data with the opposite conclusion.

Proponents of comprehensive sex education, which include the American Psychological Association, the American Medical Association, the National Association of School Psychologists, the American Academy of Pediatrics, the American Public Health Association, the Society for Adolescent Medicine and the American College Health Association, argue that sexual behavior after puberty is a given, and it is therefore crucial to provide information about the risks and how they can be minimized; they also claim that denying teens such factual information leads to unwanted pregnancies and STIs.

On the other hand, proponents of abstinence-only sex education object to curricula that fail to teach their standard of moral behavior; they maintain that a morality based on sex only within the bounds of marriage is “healthy and constructive” and that value-free knowledge of the body may lead to immoral, unhealthy, and harmful practices. Within the last decade, the federal government has encouraged abstinence-only education by steering over a billion dollars to such programs. Some 25 states now decline the funding so that they can continue to teach comprehensive sex education. Funding for one of the federal government’s two main abstinency-only funding programs, Title V, was extended only until December 31, 2007; Congress is debating whether to continue it past that date.

The impact of the rise in abstinence-only education remains a question. To date, no published studies of abstinence-only programs have found consistent and significant program effects on delaying the onset of intercourse. In 2007, a study ordered by the U.S. Congress found that middle school students who took part in abstinence-only sex education programs were just as likely to have sex (and use contraception) in their teenage years as those who did not.Abstinence-only advocates claimed that the study was flawed because it was too narrow and began when abstinence-only curricula were in their infancy, and that other studies have demonstrated positive effects.

According to a 2007 report, Teen pregnancies in the United States showed 3% increase in the teen birth rate from 2005 to 2006, to nearly 42 births per 1,000.

According to Anna Mulrine at U.S. News & World Report, records show that professionals still do not know what method of sex education works best to keep teens from engaging in sexual activity but they are still working to find out.

This insanity is the result of the removal of God (Jehovah) and the Holy Bible from schools, They were replaced with Planned Parenthood, The National Organization of Women and many pro–homosexual and pro-abortion groups.These secular teachers and groups teach our children how to have sex, and then they assure them that if an accidental pregnancy occurs they can take care of that too, without parents ever finding out.

I don’t care what type of music your child listens too, the entertainment industry provides plenty of provocative skin scenes to reinforce the idea fornication is good for you. The lyrics are no better, often describing actual sexual acts in detail.

Reading, writing, arithmetic, English, history and current events are what are needed to be taught in our schools. Most our Founding Fathers were educated this way, some graduated Harvard at 14 tears of age. They used a King James Version of the Holy Bible for reading. I submit that every child needs to be given a copy of the Book of Proverbs with many lessons structured from the writings of this book. Our society certainly has degraded since we made all these changes against God and towards immorality and debauchery. A society without morality is doomed to ultimate failure, we have no morality in our society anymore.

Essentially, we teach our children what part of their bodies have which function, provide graphic demonstrations using bananas and condoms, have homosexuals present their agenda and then provide information where our children can dispose their mistake by murdering their own child. Of course we give them free contraceptives and tell them to have fun but be safe. This is no different than giving a rattlesnake to a child to play with and expecting good results.

If it were possible to teach just two of the Ten Commandments in our public schools I would start with, “Thou shalt not commit adultery (Exodus 20:14 KJV) and “Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour’s” (Exodus 20:17 KJV).

Yeshua HaMashiach (Jesus Christ) said, “Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart” (Matthew 5:27-28 KJV).

.Many Christians teach that sexual intercourse is meant to take place within the context of marriage, and that sexual abstinence is the norm outside of that. But for married couples, Paul of Tarsus wrote that they should not deprive each other, except for a short time for devotion to prayer. However, some Christians are against any use of contraceptives, even within marriage.

Catholicism defines chastity as the virtue that moderates the sexual appetite. Unmarried Catholics express chastity through sexual abstinence. Sexual intercourse within marriage is considered chaste when it retains the twofold significance of union and procreation.

The Orthodox Church teaches chastity until marriage. But even then, in accordance with the teaching of the Apostle Paul, periods of abstinence are encouraged among married couples. Traditionally, Orthodox spouses abstain from physical relations on Wednesdays, Fridays, Saturdays the eves of Great Feasts and throughout the four lenten periods (Great LentNativity FastApostles’ Fast and Dormition Fast).

Judaism forbids intercourse outside marriage (which is termed zenuth or promiscuity), but has no ideal of chastity. Within marriage abstinence is also required during and following a woman’s menstruation. The husband is not allowed to deprive sex from his wife, even if she is not fertile (known as mitzvat ‘onah’).

King Solomon said, “My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding: That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge. For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell. Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them. Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth. Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house: Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger; And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed, And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof; And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me!” (Proverbs 5:1-13 KJV) These are truly words for the wise.

According to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, “The power of procreation is a sacred part of God’s plan. It’s an expression of love and allows husband and wife to create life. God has commanded that this power and privilege of a sexual relationship only exist between a man and woman who are legally married. This commandment is called the law of chastity. It requires abstinence from sex before marriage and complete fidelity and loyalty to our spouses after marriage. God expects us to keep our thoughts clean and be modest in our dress, speech, and actions (Matthew 5:27–28).  We must also avoid viewing pornography and engaging in homosexual relations.”

“We understand that the principles of the law of chastity set The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints apart and may sound strict to the rest of the world, yet great blessings of peace, self-respect, and self-control come from obeying this commandment.”

While I at odds with almost all of the doctrines of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, I find nothing wrong with this church doctrine, in fact I applaud it.

Clearly sex should be reserved for marriage, and marriage is ordained by God between one man and one woman. Marital infidelity should be avoided at all costs. Saint John wrote, “Blessed are they that do his commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city. For without are dogs, and sorcerers, and whoremongers, and murderers, and idolaters, and whosoever loveth and maketh a lie” (Revelation 22:14-15 KJV). So that indiscriminate moment may cost you much more than you think in retrospective..

Remember that a man or woman who will cheat on their future or current spouse with you, will do so with another person also. You’re really not that special, your just the ways to meet an end. Save yourself for your marital partner. It will be a blessing to both of you and a night neither of you will forget.

Remember not to base your relationships on feelings. I like to show an example from the Torah on how we are suposed to love. “And Isaac went out to meditate in the field at the eventide: and he lifted up his eyes, and saw, and, behold, the camels were coming. And Rebekah lifted up her eyes, and when she saw Isaac, she lighted off the camel. For she had said unto the servant, What man is this that walketh in the field to meet us? And the servant had said, It is my master: therefore she took a vail, and covered herself. And the servant told Isaac all things that he had done. And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her : and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death” (Genesis 24:63-67 KJV). The order here is that Isaac took Rebekah to be his wife and then he loved her. That may seem like putting the cart in front of the horse in today’s world. It is never wise to base a relationship on feelings, feelings all to often change. Isaac loved Rebekah because she was his wife, and this is the key for a successful marriage today, because our wives and husbands are our spouses we are require to love them. This is also the principal taught in most wedding vows.

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Procreation: A Gift From God

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
(Psalms 127:3 KJV)

When the Lord created Adam and Eve, He implanted within them the power of  procreation. Procreation is the inherent ability to bring another human being into existence at any time a man and woman chooses to do so, unless the Lord wills otherwise.

We living today were not created by a direct act of God. We were born of our parents, just as our parents were born of their parents before them, and so on.

In the Book of Genesis, it is clearly stated, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them” (Genesis 1:27 KJV) and “This is the book of the generations of Adam. In the day that God created man, in the likeness of God made he him; Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created” (Genesis 5:1-2 KJV).

There is a truth found in Scripture in the Book of Genesis. Unfortunately, most believers and theologians overlook this passage. It is written, “And Adam lived an hundred and thirty years, and begat a son in his own likeness, after his image; and called his name Seth” (Genesis 5:3 KJV).

God clearly created Adam and Eve in His image and His likeness. Adam and Eve were innocent and perfect. This was before sin corrupted them after the fall of man. However, Seth was not directly created by God, as was his father Adam. Rather, Seth was procreated by the gift of procreation that the Lord had placed within Adam and Eve.

Neither Seth, nor any of our offspring are created in the image or likeness of God, this is because of sin. God is perfect and cannot sin. We are not. This is why Adam and Yeshua is refereed to as “the first Adam” and “the last Adam” in Scripture. In his epistle to the Corinthians, the Apostle Paul wrote, “And so it is written, The first man Adam was made a living soul; the last Adam was made a quickening spirit. Howbeit that was not first which is spiritual, but that which is natural; and afterward that which is spiritual. The first man is of the earth, earthy: the second man is the Lord from heaven” (1 Corinthians 15:45-47 KJV).  The Apostle Paul also said, “Who is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of every creature: For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for him: And he is before all things, and by him all things consist. And he is the head of the body, the church: who is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead; that in all things he might have the preeminence” (Colossians 1:15-18 KJV). The Apostle Paul said “all things were created by him, and for him: And he is before all things, and by him all things consist.” This certainly discredits anyone who wishes to disregard Yeshua as a “created” being.

Our children are not directly created by God as were Adam and Eve. Rather, our children are “procreated” by the inherent power of procreation that Almighty God has placed within us, a gift that has been passed on from parents to their children throughout human history.

The Apostle Paul wrote, “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned: (For until the law sin was in the world: but sin is not imputed when there is no law. Nevertheless death reigned from Adam to Moses, even over them that had not sinned after the similitude of Adam’s transgression, who is the figure of him that was to come. But not as the offence, so also is the free gift. For if through the offence of one many be dead, much more the grace of God, and the gift by grace, which is by one man, Jesus Christ, hath abounded unto many. And not as it was by one that sinned, so is the gift: for the judgment was by one to condemnation, but the free gift is of many offences unto justification. For if by one man’s offence death reigned by one; much more they which receive abundance of grace and of the gift of righteousness shall reign in life by one, Jesus Christ.) Therefore as by the offence of one judgment came upon all men to condemnation; even so by the righteousness of one the free gift came upon all men unto justification of life. For as by one man’s disobedience many were made sinners, so by the obedience of one shall many be made righteous. Moreover the law entered, that the offence might abound. But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound: That as sin hath reigned unto death, even so might grace reign through righteousness unto eternal life by Jesus Christ our Lord” (Romans 5:12-21 KJV).

One can only wish that other believers would understand this truth. If they did, perhaps they would regard the gift of procreation as a holy gift, given by God only for the pleasure and enjoyment of a man and woman legally and morally married in the sight of God. If the power of procreation was acknowledged and respected as a holy gift from God, there wouldn’t be all of the sexual immorality that is sweeping the world today. The ignorance among mankind, and especially over the perversion, defilement, depravity, and abuse of such an awesome gift from our gracious God. The power to procreate should be respected and held in purity, cleanliness, and holiness by every human being.

Yeshua said, “And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:4-6 KJV).

The power to procreate was given by the Lord only to mankind, animals, birds, fish, and other earthly living creatures. Since the Lord bestowed such power upon mankind, the Lord can intervene in the use of that power at any time He chooses to do so.

The Word of God gives us several examples of the Lord “closing the womb” so that certain women could not have children. In the Book of Genesis, we read, “Now Sarai Abram’s wife bare him no children: and she had an handmaid, an Egyptian, whose name was Hagar. And Sarai said unto Abram, Behold now, the LORD hath restrained me from bearing: I pray thee, go in unto my maid; it may be that I may obtain children by her. And Abram hearkened to the voice of Sarai” (Genesis 16:1-2 KJV), “So Abraham prayed unto God: and God healed Abimelech, and his wife, and his maidservants; and they bare children. For the LORD had fast closed up all the wombs of the house of Abimelech, because of Sarah Abraham’s wife” (Genesis 20:17-18 KJV) and “And when Rachel saw that she bare Jacob no children, Rachel envied her sister; and said unto Jacob, Give me children, or else I die. And Jacob’s anger was kindled against Rachel: and he said, Am I in God’s stead, who hath withheld from thee the fruit of the womb?” (Genesis 30:1-2 KJV).

Likewise, we read that, “But unto Hannah he gave a worthy portion; for he loved Hannah: but the LORD had shut up her womb. And her adversary also provoked her sore, for to make her fret, because the LORD had shut up her womb” (1 Samuel 1:5-6 KJV).

The Apostle Paul wrote, “(As it is written, I have made thee a father of many nations,) before him whom he believed, even God, who quickeneth the dead, and calleth those things which be not as though they were. Who against hope believed in hope, that he might become the father of many nations, according to that which was spoken, So shall thy seed be. And being not weak in faith, he considered not his own body now dead, when he was about an hundred years old, neither yet the deadness of Sara’s womb: He staggered not at the promise of God through unbelief; but was strong in faith, giving glory to God; And being fully persuaded that, what he had promised, he was able also to perform” (Romans 4:17-21 KJV).

Those are several passages in Scripture in which God chose to close the womb. However, we also find God opening the womb several times throughout Scripture.

On the Book of Genesis we read, “And when the LORD saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb: but Rachel was barren” (Genesis 29:31 KJV) and “And God remembered Rachel, and God hearkened to her, and opened her womb. And she conceived, and bare a son; and said, God hath taken away my reproach” (Genesis 30:22-23 KJV).

The birth of Samuel is God’s answer to the prayer of a childless woman; he is also the answer to Israel’s need for a prophet who will give God’s guidance to his people in their transition from the period of the judges to the period of the kings. It is written, “And they rose up in the morning early, and worshipped before the LORD, and returned, and came to their house to Ramah: and Elkanah knew Hannah his wife; and the LORD remembered her. Wherefore it came to pass, when the time was come about after Hannah had conceived, that she bare a son, and called his name Samuel, saying, Because I have asked him of the LORD” (1 Samuel 1:19-20 KJV).

Likewise, the Virgin Mary was told by an angel that she would conceive and bare a son, the Messiah of Israel. It is written, “And in the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent from God unto a city of Galilee, named Nazareth, To a virgin espoused to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David; and the virgin’s name was Mary. And the angel came in unto her, and said, Hail, thou that art highly favoured, the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women. And when she saw him, she was troubled at his saying, and cast in her mind what manner of salutation this should be. And the angel said unto her, Fear not, Mary: for thou hast found favour with God. And, behold, thou shalt conceive in thy womb, and bring forth a son, and shalt call his name JESUS. He shall be great, and shall be called the Son of the Highest: and the Lord God shall give unto him the throne of his father David: And he shall reign over the house of Jacob for ever; and of his kingdom there shall be no end” (Luke 1:26-33 KJV).

Throughout most of human history, when a Godly woman could not have a child, she went to the Lord in fervent prayer.

When Eli and Hannah desperately wanted a child, they took their request directly to God. It is written, “So Hannah rose up after they had eaten in Shiloh, and after they had drunk. Now Eli the priest sat upon a seat by a post of the temple of the LORD. And she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed unto the LORD, and wept sore. And she vowed a vow, and said, O LORD of hosts, if thou wilt indeed look on the affliction of thine handmaid, and remember me, and not forget thine handmaid, but wilt give unto thine handmaid a man child, then I will give him unto the LORD all the days of his life, and there shall no razor come upon his head” (1 Samuel 1:9-11 KJV).

This principle was echoed by Yeshua, who said, “But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly. But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking. Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him” (Matthew 6:6-8 KJV) and “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone? Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent? If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?” (Matthew 7:7-11 KJV).

When a Christian woman cannot conceive today, they make an appointment with a physician who specializes in infertility for a battery of tests. It would appear that society has their priorities completely backward. As a society, we need to prioritize our relationship with God.

Yeshua HaMashiach summed it up best when He said, “Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they? Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature? And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith? Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof” (Matthew 6:25-34 KJV).